How to communicate effectively
To be good at reading behaviour, you need to be good at communicating. I believe the best communicators are dynamic ones, shifting their expressions and behaviour appropriately to context. While humans are naturally social, they really just want to be social with people they like. If you want your communication to improve, use the world to practice your social dynamics. Many people focus only on what they put out, so you have nothing to lose practicing on strangers. Keep in mind that even if the interaction is not meaningful to you, it may be significant for them.
Another effective way of showing authenticity is through vulnerability. If anything in your life is throwing off your social interactions, don’t hide it, be open about it. Great communication is also about range. If you are good at listening or good at speaking, work on developing the other side as well. Finally, remember the fact that everyone has a story, and judging people is an inefficient route to communication. Truly reading behaviour involves interaction, not just watching and guessing through your own perception.
Note: This article was created from the conference Achiever II, and is rewritten from the speech given by Blake Eastman
Eastman studied psychology, verbal and non-verbal behaviour, and has a background in forensic psychology. He is currently the head of The Nonverbal Group, which studies human behaviour and interactions.